KIDS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS

       On Facebook there is a lot going on, it has become not only a place to share pictures and videos but also sadness, success, jokes, ideas, protests, and much more. There is so much going on that it is hard to choose one subject to share in my blog. Having said this, today a friend from Kuwait posted something on her wall that I want to share here with all and start a conversation. There is a lot to be done in some countries where kids with special needs require more help.

       "In the light of recent events on the exclusion of an autistic child from participating in a school trip, I feel the need to write this.

There are boys and girls that nobody invites to birthdays for example. There are special kids who want to belong to a team but don't get selected because it is more important to win than include these children. Children with special needs are not rare or strange, they only want what everyone else wants: to be accepted !!

         Can I ask a question? Is there anyone willing to copy and paste this post to their wall without sharing it, like I did for a friend?"

          Let us share this and a lot more experiences to help these beautiful kids to grow in a healthy and happy society.

S.V.S

Congress and Government must be held accountable for school shootings

           We are sad to see how innocent children die every day in the US of gunshots and to see the suffering of their families left behind with the emptiness of losing their little-loved ones.

          We are also tired of hearing of wars over international terrorism when our government is keeping Domestic gun terrorism in our own country and not much has been done about it.

         The power of the NRA is stronger than the power of any other type of Terrorism against the US. This game of power and money is driving us to lose the safety in our communities.

          The part of the society that wants to keep the right to hold arms MUST be controlled for their own safety and the safety of our children. And maybe the only way something will be done about it is when Schools take our government and other authorities to court and hold them accountable for not doing their jobs in protecting us.

Shame on those that think that nothing should be done.

God bless all the children of the world and keep them safe

Filled with love: Madonna Badger at TEDxNightingaleBamfordSchool

LOVE, the most powerful energy. The heart opening story of a mother who lost so much

I come from a large family, 4 wonderful brothers, and me. 

Growing up I remember my mother's biggest concern, our safety and our health. She only thought of keeping us safe, I used to tell her that no matter what she did if something was going to happen it would happen anywhere anytime. But that did not convince her. The thought of losing one of us was unbearable. 

We sadly lost our mom too early, she was only 49, I was newlywed then and all my brothers single. Then one by one started to get married, and only a few years after her passing we lost one of our brothers. My family kept on saying over and over " thank God mom was not alive to go through this loss". 

Every parent's worst nightmare is losing a child, it is not supposed to happen ever and God protects our kids and gives them a longer much longer life than us. 

This short introduction is to tell you the story of a woman that did not lose one child, but three. Three daughters and her parents in a terrible fire on Christmas Day. In 2014 on TEDx talks, Madonna Badger gave an incredible, sad, and deep talk of her pain and survival and there would be no better person than her that has gone through so much loss to explain to the world her survival fight.

Madonna Badger: Filled with Love

Thank you Madonna for opening up your heart to us! May you always keep on receiving LOVE from everyone you meet in this lifetime.

SVS

The most important thing to give our children

Having brought up three young men, I think of their accomplishments and their downfalls. I try to find out what is that helps them through their toughest moments and makes them stronger.

We have always been proud of all their accomplishments, their will to finish up what they have started without expecting them to be perfect but to have strong self-worth and love for themselves and for others as well as for their heritage.

Bringing them up as young kids our most important and strong value was to teach them respect. To respect themselves as well as others, older and younger, we did not negotiate on this matter at all. No insulting nor bullying was allowed, for us, respect was the base of any child from a good, strong, and loving family.

Our constant show of love was most important at home, no matter the behavior, always after any punishment or scolding, we reinforced our love to them, separating their misbehavior from the child himself.

Now as young men, they remind us that what helped them through their hardest teenage years, their depressions, their falling out of love had been our love for them. That makes us feel that at least we have done that right.

We pray that our love will always make them stronger and safer in this difficult and confusing world.


In the end, what really matters in life is to show our kids the power of love!

SVS

YOU MUST BE KIDDING ME

I try to spend most of my time speaking about the hardship &mother goes through trying to balance their job (may it be at home or outside) and motherhood, since motherhood by itself is already a full-time job.

But it is important to also speak about our lives as women, our interests and our bodies, yes that body that changes with the passing of pregnancy and time. Our body shape during and after pregnancy changes; stretchmark, varicose veins, extra weight are only some of the changes we go through. But as more kids come along and time passes by, our bodies take a life on its own and become someone else’s body, not ours.

And now we see those wonderful moms that come out in social media that have a perfect “10” body or shall we say perfect “0” body, since 10 as size number is considered overweight. My God, for me, is a perfect size.

Ok, so now we need to have tummy tuck surgeries, inject Botox, fix our boobs, exercise, work, bring up our kids perfectly well behaved and with strong self-esteem that will be accepted once finished schools with honors in some of the best universities in the world.

Are you kidding me?? What do you think we are made of? We are HUMAN BEINGS and as far as I know, nobody has created the magic pill where we don't grow old, get wrinkles, nor shrink with old age. And there are only 24 hours in the day, when are we supposed to ENJOY life. Going to work, take care of the kids, their activities, their tutoring, our to-do list…

So here I am a normal mom, with a normal body, whatever that maybe, with normal kids, but one thing I know for sure, a mom with normal loving kids, who whenever I get a chance I express to them the love and pride I feel for them from the first minute they were born.

So you know what dear wonderful &mother, find yourselves the time to also go out for a meal with your girlfriends, dinner with your love partner, have a great massage. But if you are one of those “0” moms, great for you, really, but if you are not, great for you too!!

So please do relax, everything will be all right and as Dr. Spock used to say “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do”, and not only trust yourself with your kid's education and upbringing but trust yourself and belief in your self no matter what your body looks like today.

SVS/SSH

Divorce is the new norm in families

                    So many people go through family and couples counseling to figure out their new lives and to try to fix their relationship.

                   Well, a 6-year-old wonder has done that with a message to their parents, please listen well and remember that you also may have a little one around you thinking the same but may not be able to express like this girl has.

All the best!!

SVS

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=vm0UNn7tJ5o