Are we over reacting over Flirtatious remarks to women?

In one of the articles I came across on a Spanish magazine regarding “piropos”, questioning two women if flirtatious remarks to women are actually a praise or harassment. Both women are professionals and in their 40’s. One of them completely against them, calling upon the feminist lobby to take care of this pending issue and the other one considering an exaggeration and waste of time in something that she did not consider to be a big issue.

It was brought up in the article about a new law in Brussels where verbal assaults are fined and that it should be considered to do that all over the world. Throughout the whole article, the behavior of man reactions towards the physical appearance of a woman is judge and criticized, considered by one of the woman as a downgrading of woman by her physical appearance.

While reading the article, there was a program on TV1 regarding college parties in Spain, where hidden cameras showed young women on podiums in discotheques and public parties getting drunk, dancing and getting undressed in front of hundreds of people.

So my question would be, aren’t we all a little distracted on the small details and leaving the wider picture out? Shouldn't we be looking more inside the homes, where the values and education are first taught? We all want to punish, to fine, to criticize or judge one gender or another. Then lets fine parents that don't teach their kids public behavior, civic education, values, lets start at the core of the problem. Or do we want a society afraid of expressing themselves, living as robots where no expression of any kind can be shown without being scared of a fine.

Please, can we speak now about positive reinforcement to our kids, about love, attention and teaching them the best way for them to express themselves and how to become better citizens of the world.

SVS

Help with the mother in law!!

            

            It is known through history daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law have complicated relationships.

            There have been articles and articles written about this matter and trying to find out a way to make things go smoother. As a mother of three BOYS, I wonder sometimes how will my relationship be with my future daughters-in-law.

Since being a child I was taught by my mother's advises how to deal with the mother-in-law.  At the end of the day, it is a matter of communication that makes a good relationship with the in-laws.

So many times I have heard from friends about their mother-in-law. Some would say “ she is like my mother”, but in reality, the mother-in-law has her own children and you will always be her son's wife. Don't go around looking for acceptance and blessings and concentrate more into the relationship with your husband and children because that is what is going to make your family happier. Once you have your family in order then everything will fall in place.

And please don't forget:

Don't criticize your husband for his relationship with his parents; do you want your future daughter-in-law to criticize your son’s relationship with you?

Don't come between your husband and his siblings. They will always figure things out as they did when they were children if they don't, a professional should help them, not you!!

You are the wife, not the daughter, let mother and son figure things out on their own. Even if it hurts you, you have to keep some distance.

Teach your son to respect grandparents from both sides the same. Then it will be up to the grandparents to earn their love.

Good luck!!

SVS